The Moments Where All You Can Do Is Survive it
Let's talk about the really hard moments. The ones that feel like the end of the world. The ones where everything is not ok and it's difficult to see if it ever will be. The ones where emotions are way past the breaking point. Where triggers become a bid for survival....
“But what if they’re hurting someone?” Honoring your child’s values from the start.
We all have these ideas of who we want our kids to be. There's values we want them to embody and things we want to be important to them. And we absolutely have that influence. The environment we raise them in, the ways we treat...
You Should Stop Shoulding Yourself
I was talking with some fellow coaches when I realized how much pressure I've been feeling to get "back to work." Feeling bad that I wasn't coaching anyone, creating anything, or doing anything work-related in my mind. Beating myself up for not being where I thought I...
Supporting Your Baby’s Freedom of Movement
How do we support infants and young children in developing robust motor skills and a strong, healthy body? The answer is through respect, trust, and freedom of movement. Within days of giving birth to your precious new baby, you’re back at the doctor’s office...
Raising Children in Authentic Belonging
In our very first moments on earth, we seek connection. We spend our entire lives seeking or avoiding it depending on whether it feels safe or threatening. An important prerequisite for an emotionally healthy home is how safe each family member feels to rest in...
What is Rupture and Repair?
As humans, we all need to experience closeness to survive. One of our primary needs is the need for connection and safety and, in our earliest years, that is supposed to come from our first relationships. These first relationships set the stage for how we will...
Stupid! (And Other Words You Don’t Want Your Kids Repeating)
You’re having a normal day, out with your kids in the very place you would least like to be judged for your parenting. Suddenly a store employee drops something and your child exclaims far more loudly than anyone wants to hear, “Look what they did! That person is so...
When Fear Drives Your Parenting
Fear is not all bad. If we are truly in danger, fear can save our lives. It protects us from the scary things in life. The problem comes when fear sticks around for far too long. Overstaying its welcome. Keeping us in a state of constant danger, unable to see the...
When Recurring Problems Arise
When we notice a recurring problem area with one of our children, we naturally want to fix it. So we think about it, talk to people about it, ask for advice, maybe try some different things. But how often do we simply ask the child? Get on their level, into their...
On Telling Kids What To Do
When someone wants you to do something, how would you like them to communicate that to you? "Don't do that. Do this. Stop that. Give that to them. Put that back. Turn that off. Stay here. Sit down. Get dressed. Brush your teeth. Go to the bathroom. Eat your food. Go...